Reflections {Day 5} : Can We Talk About Jealousy? (& Being Erica mini-review)

by inbetweenroses

To smell the roses. To take a moment to reflect. How oft’ we overlook & forget thee? For the next few days, I’ve decided to take the time to reflect the happenings of the day-to-day life. I cannot promise quality writings, but I give thee my word: to bring about raw tidbits of thoughts, that churn the gears of my brain. Without further adieu: 

I’ve recently ventured into a new TV series (actually circa, 2009, but nevertheless, new to me…. and I’m digressing…) – a Canadian Comedy TV series, actually. Very rarely does one find lush and fulfilling Canadian shows but CBC’s Being Erica finds itself up to par. I recall seeing promos for Being Erica while watching re-runs of Little Mosque on the Prairie, and being quite intrigued by the premise. The premise being, a woman who begins seeing a therapist to deal with regrets in her life, only to discover that the therapist has the ability to send her back in time to actually relive these events and even change them. However, having low expectations from Canadian programming, I never acted upon my curiosity, until one day I came across it on Netlifx.

Needless to say, I am greatly enjoying the show, with due credit to the show’s primary lead, Erica Strange (Erin Karpluk). The characterization of Erica is immaculate: quirky to a tolerable degree, perfect amount of funny/cringe-y, inspiring but never cheesy. Furthermore, the chemistry with her therapist (Michael Riley) is brilliant – together, the two sell the story effortlessly. As far as my internet research shows (which really isn’t that extensive, hope you’ll forgive me), sci-fi critics are not sold on the show’s depiction of time-travel. However, Being Erica does not find itself even close to that category. Instead, Being Erica compels one to delve into their pasts and reflect. Each episode challenges our perspectives and encourages us to make amends with our future, past and present. I definitely encourage you all to take a gander. (For perspective’s sake, Being Erica reminds me of Ugly Betty/Lizzie Bennett Diaries).

Today’s reflection spawns from Being Erica’s 10th episode, “Mi Casa, Su Casa Loma”. Like every episode, this one provided a deliciously rich food for thought. But this one particularly stuck to me. In this episode, Erica time travels to 1993 in efforts to pinpoint why her friendship with Katie Atkins (Sarah Gadon) failed. Much to Erica’s surprise, she discovers that at one point or another, both of them have been jealous of each other, preventing Katie and Erica from holding up their valuable friendship. Dr. Tom, Erica’s therapist suggests that while we always encourage talking about feelings, jealousy seems to be taboo.

Why don’t we talk about jealousy often? Why don’t we address that it’s a prevalent and complex problem? Awareness is crucial in overcoming jealousy. Jumbled with a variety of different emotions – anger, resentfulness, bitterness, irritableness – we often forget about the little green monster of envy. Being aware that one is being overcome with jealousy will allow one to acknowledge it and encourage them to shift their perspective. Do not let jealousy build a wall between you and your always-budding and diverse relationships. I think we should talk about jealousy often; it will remind us to step into other people’s shoes, take a deep breath and remind us to count our multitude of blessings.